Poly 101 – Wed 8th August

Ever fallen in love with more than one person? It has happened to us and we think that romantic relationships with more than one person are awesome! Join us on Wednesday, 8th August 2012, to learn about and share your experiences with polyamory, the love of many. Take your chance to make poly friends all over Switzerland!

PLEASE READ CAREFULLY: This will be the last Poly 101 meeting organised by myself, so it will be more of a social event than the usual moderated discussion. As it’s the summer, I also thought that some less official meeting was suitable. It will take place outside (as opposed to down the stairs) if the weather allows it and is there’s enough space for us (exceptionally, no table reservation will be made). IF YOU’RE INTERESTED IN TAKING THE RESPONSIBILITY OF THE ORGANISATION OF FUTURE EVENTS, PLEASE CONTACT ME.

Language will be English as we set out to bridge the barrière de reuchti

We meet at the Vario Bar in Olten (Solothurnerstrasse 22), 7-8 minutes walk from the main station. Here’s the map. Be careful, as 2 railway stations are shown on the map. The main station is the one eastward.

Date: Wednesday 8th August 2012
Time: from 7.15pm until… (I will at least be there until 9.15)
Where:
Vario Bar in Olten (Solothurnerstrasse 22), downstairs or outside if the weather’s nice (map)

 

 

More infos: romaine.jade@hotmail.com

Poly 101 – Wed 11th July

Ever fallen in love with more than one person? It has happened to us and we think that romantic relationships with more than one person are awesome! Join us on Wednesday, 11th July 2012, to learn about and share your experiences with polyamory, the love of many. This event takes place monthly on the 2nd Wednesday of every month. Take your chance to make poly friends all over Switzerland!

So what happens at Poly 101? We start with an introduction round and then have a moderated discussion with a set topic where you are welcome to learn about and share your experiences with polyamory. After the discussion we stick around for socializing and poly goodness :-).

Language will be English as we set out to bridge the barrière de reuchti

The topic for the next meeting is metamours. Your metamour is your partner’s partner. How do you interact with them or do you at all? If you meet them, when do you meet them? If you’re at an event where your metamour(s) are there how do you act around them. In this month’s discussion we’re going to discuss anything and everything to do with metamours. The topic is really to get us started. The discussion can go freely from there.

We meet at the Vario Bar in Olten (Solothurnerstrasse 22), 7-8 minutes walk from the main station. Here’s the map. Be careful, as 2 railway stations are shown on the map. The main station is the one eastward. When you get there, just go to the back and downstairs (spiraling staircase), and across the closed curtains. If you want to see what the place looks like, go there (middle picture of the 9 pics displayed). 


Date: Wednesday 11th July 2012 (always the 2nd Wednesday of every month)
Time: from 7.15pm to 9.15pm
Where:
Vario Bar in Olten (Solothurnerstrasse 22),downstairs (map)

Cost: No cover, but sliding-scale donations are welcome

 

More infos: romaine.jade@hotmail.com

Poly 101 – Wed 13th June

Ever fallen in love with more than one person? It has happened to us and we think that romantic relationships with more than one person are awesome! Join us on Wednesday, 13th June 2012, to learn about and share your experiences with polyamory, the love of many. This event takes place monthly on the 2nd Wednesday of every month. Take your chance to make poly friends all over Switzerland!

So what happens at Poly 101? We start with an introduction round and then have a moderated discussion with a set topic where you are welcome to learn about and share your experiences with polyamory. After the discussion we stick around for socializing and poly goodness :-).

Language will be English as we set out to bridge the barrière de reuchti

The topic for the next meeting is handling a broken rule. In many polyamorous relationships, rules are established to ensure each partner is comfortable with their relationships. As relationships grow, these rules change and evolve. As we all know, one of the issues with rules is that they are ‘made to be broken,’ so to speak. So when that happens, when a rule is broken, how do you deal with it? The topic is really to get us started. The discussion can go freely from there.

We meet at the Vario Bar in Olten (Solothurnerstrasse 22), 7-8 minutes walk from the main station. Here’s the map. Be careful, as 2 railway stations are shown on the map. The main station is the one eastward. When you get there, just go to the back and downstairs (spiraling staircase), and across the closed curtains. If you want to see what the place looks like, go there (middle picture of the 9 pics displayed). 

 

Date: Wednesday 13th June 2012 (always the 2nd Wednesday of every month)
Time: from 7.15pm to 9.15pm
Where:
Vario Bar in Olten (Solothurnerstrasse 22),downstairs (map)

Cost: No cover, but sliding-scale donations are welcome

 

More infos: romaine.jade@hotmail.com

 

 

 

Poly 101 – Wed 9th May

Ever fallen in love with more than one person? It has happened to us & we think that romantic relationships with more than one person are awesome! Join us on Wednesday, 9th May 2012, to learn about and share your experiences with polyamory, the love of many.

This event was initially created by a group of young people bringing Vancouver’s famous Poly 101 format to Switzerland. They have now gone back to Canada but we’re trying to keep the event alive. It takes place monthly on the 2nd Wednesday of every month. Take your chance to make poly friends all over Switzerland!

So what happens at Poly 101? We start with an introduction round and then have a moderated discussion with a set topic where you are welcome to learn about and share your experiences with polyamory. After the discussion we stick around for socializing and poly goodness :-).

Language will be English as we set out to bridge the barrière de reuchti

The topic for the next meeting is coming out as polyamorous. This could be anything from sitting down and having a conversation with your family to a friend noticing on your newsfeed that you’re attending one of these events. How do you react? What do you say? How do you even approach the subject with someone who doesn’t understand? The topic is really to get us started. The discussion can go freely from there.

We meet at the Vario Bar in Olten (Solothurnerstrasse 22), 7-8 minutes walk from the main station. Here’s the map. Be careful, as 2 railway stations are shown on the map. The main station is the one eastward. When you get there, just go to the back and downstairs (spiraling staircase), and across the closed curtains. If you want to see what the place looks like, go there (middle picture of the 9 pics displayed). 

 

Date: Wednesday 9th May 2012 (always the 2nd Wednesday of every month)
Time: from 7.15pm to 9.15pm
Where:
Vario Bar in Olten (Solothurnerstrasse 22 ),downstairs (map)

Cost: No cover, but sliding-scale donations are welcome

 

Polyamory Questions on Okcupid

OKCupid is a great website for poly dating because matching numbers depend on which questions you answer. Hence if you answer mostly poly question you’ll get a poly matching score! You should be careful as to not answer too many unrelated questions though, or a high match might just tell you that they shower daily and eat the same food as you …

Here’s a couple of polyamory related questions to start with …

Let us know if we missed any more poly questions, and good luck! ;)

Poly 101 - Wednesday 11th April 2012

Ever fallen in love with more than one person? It has happened to us & we think that romantic relationships with more than one person are awesome! Join us on Wednesday, 11th April 2012, to learn about and share your experiences with polyamory, the love of many!

This event was initially created by a group of young people bringing Vancouver’s famous Poly 101 format to Switzerland. They have now gone back to Canada but we’re trying to keep the event alive. It takes place monthly on the 2nd Wednesday of every month. Take your chance to make poly friends all over Switzerland!

So what happens at Poly 101? We start with an introduction round and then have a moderated discussion with a set topic where you are welcome to learn about and share your experiences with polyamory. After the discussion we stick around for socializing and poly goodness :-).

Language will be English as we set out to bridge the barrière de reuchti

The topic for the next meeting is jealousy in polyamorous relationships. What is jealousy? Why do people feel jealous? Do you feel jealous at all? How do you handle it? How do you handle your partner’s jealousy? The topic is really to get us started. The discussion can go freely from there.

We meet at the Vario Bar in Olten (Solothurnerstrasse 22), 7-8 minutes walk from the main station. Here’s the map. Be careful, as 2 railway stations are shown on the map. The main station is the one eastward. When you get there, just go to the back and downstairs (spiraling staircase), and across the closed curtains. If you want to see what the place looks like, go there (middle picture of the 9 pics displayed). 

Date: Wednesday 11th April 2012 (always the 2nd Wednesday of every month)
Time: from 7pm to 9pm
Where:
Vario Bar in Olten (Solothurnerstrasse 22),downstairs (map)
Cost: No cover, but sliding-scale donations are welcome

Poly resources

I personally haven’t read all the resources below, so you’ll have to make up your own opinion about them. Many people recommend “Opening up”, so you can safely go for this one as a first read.

I have simply copied and pasted some recommendations found in various places on the Internet and left the original comments that accompanied them. I truly hope that the people that wrote the comments in the first place won’t mind that I’ve copied and pasted them. If you notice your comment and you do mind, please tell me and I will of course delete it. I have sometimes slightly edited the comments to make it work grammatically (when the subject “I” was used).

Comments in italics are mine.

I will try to keep it updated with what I come across.

Last updated: 27th March 2012



Books

Opening Up by Tristan Taormino. Considered by some to be superior to “The Ethical Slut” because it does a better job of answering questions for ‘vanillas’ and it focuses on polyamory without kink or gender bias. If you click on that link, it will list a whole bunch of books on Amazon that are poly related.

Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy. Make sure you order the new 2nd edition and not a second hand copy which are often the first edition. The 2nd edition talks about relationships and all the hard stuff with poly, the first was about having safer sex only.

Sex at dawn, co-authored by Christopher Ryan, PhD and Cacilda Jethá. Good read, and can really be an eye-opener for monogamists, but might be a bit too heavily biased towards non-monogamy… It’s a great book to support the view that monogamy is a strange thing historically speaking, and a more open sexual situation is more normal, but some of the arguments they put forward start from a slightly biased standpoint so lose a bit of credulity.

Polyamory - Roadmaps for the Clueless & Hopeful by Anthony Ravenscroft

Polyamory - The new love without limits - Secrets of sustainable intimate relationships by Dr Deborah M. Anatol.

Power Circuits by R. Caldera. Poly book with power exchange content. I haven’t found mentions of it on the Internet, so…?


Podcasts

Polyweekly.com podcast by Cunning Minx. Browse the archives for a trove of relationship advice, between episode 50 and 200 are quite some gems about all the hard stuff in poly and how to best deal with it.


Articles in online newspapers

Dan Savage’s weekly column Savage Love which is syndicated to 50 newspapers all over North America. He promotes a relation model which he terms “monogamish” where partners are encouraged to open up if their sexual needs are not meet by their primary partner.

Heureux, les polyamoureux? Article in Psychologie.

Newscientist article about polyamory - Love unlimited: the polyamorists.

Making Love and Trouble - The surprisingly woman-friendly roots of modern polyamory.

Three’s company - Despite legal barriers, a Vancouver polyamorist ‘triad’ quietly continues their unusual union. Article in the online press.

Heather Has Two Mommies, One Daddy, and Several Matriarchal Women in the Community Who She Thinks of as Moms. Polycamp—the Summer Camp for Kids Growing Up in Poly Families—Is All Grown-Up Now. Article in the online press by Dan Savage.


Websites

www.polyamory.ch

www.polyamour.info (in French)

Looking Through Us - “An Album of our experiences with non-monogamy, polyamory and modern love”.

www.polymatchmaker.com - Dating site

www.polyamory.org

Amours pluriels - Que se passe-t-il si on remet en question l’exclusivité amoureuse?



Blogs

Rarely wears lipstick. Blog of a London poly girl.

My poly life.

Polyamory: some thoughts on rules (post).

Mistress Matisse’s blog.


Other Internet resources

Varieties of intimate relationships

Presentation - Poly and single - Tips and tricks for poly dating.

Map: The Big World Of Non-Monogamous Relationships.

Psychology - Therapy with Clients Who Are Bisexual and Polyamorous.

Two Boyfriends, a light-hearted look at polyamory.

Other links.

New Poly Meet-Up in Zurich, March 27

News reached us that there’s a new poly meet-up in Zurich, on March 27 at the Devis Pearl bar. Language is most likely German. We’re very excited about these news, it’s great to see how more and more local poly support groups are popping up in Switzerland!

date: Tuesday, March 27, 2012
time: starting at 18:00 
where: Devis Pearl Bar near Bahnhof Wiedikon
address: Birmensdorferstrasse 83, 8003 Zürich (map)

Swiss Poly 101, March 21 — Poly Relationships

Ever fallen in love with more than one person? It has happened to us & we think that romantic relationships with more than one person are awesome! Join us on Wednesday, March 21st, to learn about and share your experiences with polyamory, the love of many.

Take your chance to make poly friends all over Switzerland!

So what happens at the Poly 101? We start with an introduction round and then have a moderated discussion with a set topic where you are welcome to learn about and share your experiences with polyamory. After the discussion we stick around for socializing and poly goodness :-). It will also be possible to order food for those who want to.

The topic for the next meeting is poly relationships. Our discussion will surround relationships such as closed, open, primary, secondary, single, dyad, triad, quad, network and everything in between. We’ll be looking to help understand each individual’s relationship and discuss how the interactions between each member of that relationship work.

We meet at the Restaurant Bahnhof Gleis 13 at Bahnhof Olten (Martin-Distelistrasse 1, zero minute from the train station, just upstairs of the Migrolino at platform 12, and then walk right). We have a place upstairs (first floor) all for us as to guarantee the privacy of our discussion.

Swiss Poly 101, Feb 13

Ever fallen in love with more than one person? It has happened to us and we think that romantic relationships of more than two are awesome! Join us on Monday, Feb 13, in Olten to connect & share & learn about Polyamory, the love of many.

We’re a group of young people bringing Vancouver’s famous Poly 101 format to Switzerland. You are welcome to join us to connect with fellow poly people and to share and learn about polyamory. This is not a repeating event, so take your unique chance to make poly friends all over Switzerland!

So what happens at the Poly 101? We’ll start with an introduction round and then have a moderated discussion. After the discussion we’ll stick around for socializing and more poly goodness :)

We meet at the Coq D’Or at Bahnhof Olten (zero minutes from the trainstation, just upstairs of the Migrolino at platform 12). We have the restaurant all for us as to guarantee the privacy of our discussion.

Language will most likely be English as we set out to bridge the barrière de reuchti and want to be inclusive of expats …

date: Monday, February 13, 2012
time: 07:00 PM to 09:00 PM
where: Coq D’Or at Bahnhof Olten
address: Tannwaldstrasse 48, Olten, Switzerland (map)
cost: No cover, but sliding-scale donations are welcome

Our mission is to bring the love of many to Switzerland!

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