I personally haven’t read all the resources below, so you’ll have to make up your own opinion about them. Many people recommend “Opening up”, so you can safely go for this one as a first read.
I have simply copied and pasted some recommendations found in various places on the Internet and left the original comments that accompanied them. I truly hope that the people that wrote the comments in the first place won’t mind that I’ve copied and pasted them. If you notice your comment and you do mind, please tell me and I will of course delete it. I have sometimes slightly edited the comments to make it work grammatically (when the subject “I” was used).
Comments in italics are mine.
I will try to keep it updated with what I come across.
Last updated: 27th March 2012
Opening Up by Tristan Taormino. Considered by some to be superior to “The Ethical Slut” because it does a better job of answering questions for ‘vanillas’ and it focuses on polyamory without kink or gender bias. If you click on that link, it will list a whole bunch of books on Amazon that are poly related.
Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy. Make sure you order the new 2nd edition and not a second hand copy which are often the first edition. The 2nd edition talks about relationships and all the hard stuff with poly, the first was about having safer sex only.
Sex at dawn, co-authored by Christopher Ryan, PhD and Cacilda Jethá. Good read, and can really be an eye-opener for monogamists, but might be a bit too heavily biased towards non-monogamy… It’s a great book to support the view that monogamy is a strange thing historically speaking, and a more open sexual situation is more normal, but some of the arguments they put forward start from a slightly biased standpoint so lose a bit of credulity.
Polyamory - Roadmaps for the Clueless & Hopeful by Anthony Ravenscroft
Polyamory - The new love without limits - Secrets of sustainable intimate relationships by Dr Deborah M. Anatol.
Power Circuits by R. Caldera. Poly book with power exchange content. I haven’t found mentions of it on the Internet, so…?
Polyweekly.com podcast by Cunning Minx. Browse the archives for a trove of relationship advice, between episode 50 and 200 are quite some gems about all the hard stuff in poly and how to best deal with it.
Articles in online newspapers
Dan Savage’s weekly column Savage Love which is syndicated to 50 newspapers all over North America. He promotes a relation model which he terms “monogamish” where partners are encouraged to open up if their sexual needs are not meet by their primary partner.
Heureux, les polyamoureux? Article in Psychologie.
Newscientist article about polyamory - Love unlimited: the polyamorists.
Making Love and Trouble - The surprisingly woman-friendly roots of modern polyamory.
Three’s company - Despite legal barriers, a Vancouver polyamorist ‘triad’ quietly continues their unusual union. Article in the online press.
Heather Has Two Mommies, One Daddy, and Several Matriarchal Women in the Community Who She Thinks of as Moms. Polycamp—the Summer Camp for Kids Growing Up in Poly Families—Is All Grown-Up Now. Article in the online press by Dan Savage.
www.polyamour.info (in French)
Looking Through Us - “An Album of our experiences with non-monogamy, polyamory and modern love”.
www.polymatchmaker.com - Dating site
Amours pluriels - Que se passe-t-il si on remet en question l’exclusivité amoureuse?
Rarely wears lipstick. Blog of a London poly girl.
My poly life.
Polyamory: some thoughts on rules (post).
Mistress Matisse’s blog.
Other Internet resources
Varieties of intimate relationships
Presentation - Poly and single - Tips and tricks for poly dating.
Map: The Big World Of Non-Monogamous Relationships.
Psychology - Therapy with Clients Who Are Bisexual and Polyamorous.
Two Boyfriends, a light-hearted look at polyamory.